Purpose in the Pain- To Learn and Unlearn

Hola mis amores! Hey my lovelies!

Como estan? How are you? 

It’s your girl Ashley here with another blog post in the Healing Happens series. I can’t believe it’s week three of a series I could have only dreamt would happen. I remember praying that God would bring good out of my struggles and bless someone else with them. This prayer is being answered right here. 

Thank you for being here and for choosing to love you and want healing for yourself in what may be a really hard time. You’re amazing. 

Today, I want to talk about purpose in our pain and how challenging times can lead us to bigger and greater flourishing. You ready? 

Let’s go to the story we’ve been sitting with the last two weeks. 

“As He (Jesus) got into the boat, His disciples followed Him. Suddenly, a violent storm arose on the sea, so that the boat was being swamped by the waves. But He was sleeping. So the disciples came and woke Him up, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to die! But He said to them, “Why are you fearful, you of little faith? ” Then He got up and rebuked the winds and the sea. And there was a great calm. The men were amazed and asked, “What kind of man is this? — even the winds and the sea obey Him!” (Matthew 8: 23- 27)

When I was thinking about what to write about this week, I looked back to a list I made of ideas for my blog posts. On the list, I saw on a topic called “Learning and Unlearning.” There was no other detail for me to go back to figure out what I meant by that, but I was so drawn to it. I knew that this would be the topic I would write to you about this the week. 

So, I thought about it, and I began thinking about the story in Matthew that we have been reading. When I read over the story one more time, I noticed it… There was purpose in the disciples’ pain and a beautiful lesson of learning and unlearning.

This question came to mind when I read the story:

What would happen if the disciples found themselves in another storm a different time? Would they react the same way, or would they have learned their lesson? 

You see, in times to come, many of the disciples would find themselves in other storms.  When they found themselves in other moments of pain, struggle, and confusion, like watching Jesus be crucified after walking so closely with him and later building the early church and being prosecuted for their faith, I wondered if they would react the same way again in those storms, in faithlessness and in fear. 

My guess is that they would have greater faith and peace in storms to come. When I think about why this story took place as a part of not only Jesus’ story on earth, but the disciples’ story, I can’t help but imagine that Jesus was teaching them lessons that they needed to know for the future- that Jesus was powerful, trustworthy, and that they could have faith in God in a storm. The disciples had to learn that faith was the proper response in tricky situations, not fear. 

That blew my mind. 

I can’t tell you how much the challenges in my life taught me lessons that helped me to survive future storms and to flourish in life and in my faith. I have been talking to you all about some of my mental health struggles in college. Going through them, I learned that holding close to the truth of God was my weapon to making it out of the storm in one piece. I learned how to fight intrusive thoughts even more and how to detect lies that once held me captive to shame and insecurity. 

I’m stronger now mentally and in my faith. 

I needed to go through that storm to come out stronger and wiser. I needed to unlearn what I thought were “true thoughts” and learn how to fight with godly truth and truth about who I am. Now, some of the lies that taunted me then fall short to the truth that I learned about God and myself in that time. 

Amor, I firmly believe that there is purpose in your pain. Whatever you are going through may be teaching you the lessons that you need to make it through another storm. Or, the lessons that you are learning right now may be just what someone else will need to hear about in the future.

So talk to me… What are you learning and unlearning in your difficult time? Can you see glimpses of purpose in your pain?  

Like the disciples, there is so much for you to learn and unlearn in that storm of yours and you are in the process of coming out stronger if you keep on trusting God and holding steadfast to the people around you who can give you the truth that you need. 

You are in your cocoon love, and sometimes, the process is painful. But keep holding on, learning and unlearning, and you’ll be amazed at how much more wiser and stronger you’ll come out on the other side. 

Con amor, 


P. S. My love, if this has impacted you in any way, let me know how! It always encourages me to hear how these posts are encouraging YOU. I love you!

Email me at sheisallinministries@gmail.com or dm your girl on Instagram @_sheisallin.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s